We’ve been discussing the mature heroine this month, and quite frankly, I’m not sure what’s left to be said. We all agree that life doesn’t end at 30. That notion of the brimming eagerness of anything-is-possible youth aside, I firmly believe that most of us our just hitting our stride in our 30’s and 40’s. We’ve finally grown into our shoes, so to speak. We’ve had the chance to make some mistakes, learn from them and move on, smarter and better armed to weather the next storm life may throw at us. (One reason I think so many romance writers are “slightly older” when they begin their writing careers – unless you’re one of those lucky gifted authors born with pen in hand, it usually takes some life experience to produce a strong novel.)
Passion in all it’s wonderful forms; romance, careers, motherhood, a deeper understanding of ourselves and what we want as women, is always ebbing and flowing into and out of our lives. That’s the beauty of it, as long as we embrace life with hopefulness and energy, the chance for passion is just around the corner. Even romance, no matter how old we get, can find us.
I’m reminded of my husband’s grandmother recently turned 90. She was widowed early in life, in her mid 40’s. For decades she lived as a single, mature woman pursuing her own interests. She stayed very active and very involved with her family. And with one notable exception somewhere in her mid 60’s, she didn’t even date. Then, in her eighties, when other women would be sitting quietly on the sidelines, she had a timely reunion with a boy she’d been sweet on in high school and . . . bam! She was in love – for the second time. They’ve been happily married now for several years.
I’m not saying we all want to read about a heroine who remarries in her 80’s. But it’s important to know that love can find us wherever we are on our journey. While these women may not be the focal character in our novels, they should be represented, when possible, for this very reason. I’m sure most of you can think of some family member in a similar situation.
Someone mentioned in an earlier post this month that it doesn’t matter if the heroine is in her 30’s, even 40’s, if the story is written well, capturing our imaginations, entertaining us with twists and turns. I couldn’t agree more. And I think the industry is open to that when we consider books and movies like two of my all time favorites; Under the Tuscan Sun (which was a book first) and Something’s Gotta Give.
My point is that we are all heroines of our own lives. Think about it. This life is your one chance to tell the most important story you'll ever write. Your story. Write it well.
What about you? What are you passionate about? Are you living like the heroine in your own story?